Just some good advice (two reposts) from another Southerner, Ms. Reese Witherspoon.
Reese Witherspoon’s Evening Ritual Is Basically Our Dream Night In
by Sophie Miura
PHOTO: Draper James
It’s been a big year for Reese Witherspoon. The award-winning actress was nominated for an Emmy for hit show Big Little Lies, which she produced and starred in, she wrapped up filming the much-anticipated movie A Wrinkle in Time, and she’s already getting praise for the comedy Home Again, which hit cinemas this week.
Despite all the accolades, she says there’s nothing better than ending a chaotic, fast-paced day by coming home to hang with her three children, Ava, 18, Deacon, 13, and Tennessee, 4. “I feel better outside the house when I’m really connected to everything that’s going on with the kids. When they’re happy, I’m happy,” she tells MyDomaine. Ava and Deacon might be full-fledged teens, but Witherspoon says that hasn’t changed their end-of-day family rituals, which always involves sitting down together for dinner and even playing Rummikub (does it get any more picture-perfect?).
Ahead we quizzed Witherspoon with all our burning questions: her go-to evening ritual, the books on her nightstand, and the key to raising smart, self-assured teens. Here are a few of the tips we gleaned from one woman who does it all (and nails it).
On Her Evening Routine…
We’re used to seeing her in red carpet gowns or signature Draper James dresses, but when she walks in the front door, Witherspoon is every woman. “I put on sweatpants [and] take off my bra—literally, taking off my bra is the first thing on my mind. I mean, is there any better feeling than taking off your bra the minute you get home?”
Once she’s comfortable in a long-sleeve, striped top and sweatpants, she puts her youngest son, Tennessee, to bed and prioritizes solo time. “Everybody knows they have to leave me alone for 30 minutes because I read a book in the bath,” she says. At the moment, she’s reading Siracusa by Delia Ephron. “It’s about two couples who go to a small town in Italy. They’re really interesting characters and it’s really well-written,” she says.
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On Raising Smart, Self-Assured Teens…
No matter how chaotic her schedule is, she always makes time to enjoy dinner with her family, which is her top tip for raising confident teens. “As much as you possibly can, have family dinner together. Even if it has to shift later because they’re going soccer practice … or whatever they’re doing. It’s important for them to be able to feel good at a table and share their day,” she says.
She’s also learned how important it is to invite Ava and Deacon’s friends over. “Let them invite their friends over. You want all the kids at your house,” she says. “Usually you’re like a fly on the wall and you can hear what they’re talking about … because they don’t realize they should be more secretive. Those are my spying techniques,” she says with a grin.
On Hosting Guests…
Sure, having refreshments on hand is a good start when hosting guests, but Witherspoon says another key aspect is often overlooked. “I like to offer people a drink when they come in and the wifi code—because don’t people want to know the wifi code immediately?” she says.
When entertaining, she always makes sure to invite “someone who can talk to a brick wall for three hours” to ensure even the shyest person in the room is at ease. When in doubt, she tries these fail-safe conversation starters. “I like to ask people things like ‘what was your first job?’ Or ‘if you could move anywhere in the world, where would you move to?’ Or ‘what is your secret escape plan, like, if you left your life immediately, where would you go to, and what would you do?'” she says.
Reese Witherspoon Shares Her Best Career Advice for Ambitious Young Women
Reese Witherspoon doesn’t just play ambitious characters on the big screen—she also wants more women to be proud of their appetite for success. When the Academy Award-winning actress (who founded her own film production company, Pacific Standard, and her own multimedia company, Hello Sunshine, as a way to spotlight women’s diverse stories) spoke at Glamour‘s Women of the Year Awards in 2015, she told hundreds of young girls in the audience that “ambition is not a dirty word. It’s believing in yourself and your abilities.” In a new essay for the magazine, Witherspoon reveals the surprising thing she learned from Mindy Kaling, how mothers can help change the perception of ambitious girls, and her best advice for ambitious women.
On what Mindy Kaling taught her about minority women in Hollywood: “When I asked [her], ‘Don’t you ever get exhausted by always having to create your own roles?’ she said, ‘Reese, I’ve never had anything that I didn’t create for myself.’ I thought, Wow, I feel like a jerk for asking that; I used to have parts that just showed up for me. I can’t imagine how hard it is to write your own parts and simultaneously have to change people’s perceptions of what a woman of color is in today’s society.”
On how parents have a duty to create a world that encourages ambitious young women: “As moms, we have a unique opportunity to keep changing this attitude that ambition is an ugly quality in women [and] that it makes you unlikeable,” she says. Citing a Columbia University study that found that women who were perceived as ambitious were more likely to seem more selfish and unhireable when compared to a man who possessed the same traits, Witherspoon encourages parents to “talk to your kids about ambition as a positive trait in men and women [and show] that a woman with passion and ambition is [not] out only for herself.”
On her best advice for ambitious women in all industries: “Just do what you do well. If you’re a producer, you’ve got to produce. If you’re a writer, you’ve got to write. If you’re in corporate America, keep working hard to bust through the glass ceiling. If you want our voices to be represented in government—and I think we’re all getting behind that idea now—encourage women to run and help them with their campaigns,” she explains. “And when your ambition pays off, I encourage you to give your sisters a little goose out the door by helping to nurture their ambitions.”
Head over to Glamour to read Witherspoon’s complete pro-ambition manifesto.
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