Before we leave for our trip, I wanted to spend some time with my girlfriends and family. It just ‘feels right’ to me. Unfortunately it didn’t include time with my daughter (she’s going through some stresses herself and wanted her own time). 🙁
Finally and gladly, I was able to get all three ladies; Erica, Tanya and Carol together on Wednesday evening for Happy Hour in Seattle. I have to give you a quick little note: (all 3 are former colleagues) and I am so happy that they’ve allowed me to still enjoy their friendships. Erica I consider my wise, loving soul of a friend; she just makes me feel warm being around her. Tanya is the (youngest of us all – lol) (thankfully in her 40’s) and the beauty from Jamaica. She too has a quietness about her, also a great support and very endearing. Then Carol – I was fortunate to get to ‘share’ her friendship (she is Erica’s friend). They worked side-by-side (desks) in the same group. Carol, though I’d spoken with at work and also fascinated me with this great, fun style (classy with a twist – from clothes to a cute, colorful haircut) and is also a very assured woman (what I got to witness at work). All three (to me) have a great, smart, structural, savvy work style. I would say that I’m the creative (in a goofy, dementia – woman who rolls around in the grass at a wedding) kind of way, of the bunch. HA HA But that’s why I enjoy spending time with all of them and sharing laughs. And I thank them for being my friends!
On Thursday evening I (not planned) spent a little time with my sister after her work (in Kirkland) and we had some good laughs as well. With her, I found myself seeing how my ‘ageism’ is definitely different than with my girlfriends. Tanya is close to her age, but is much more quiet. When my sister and I get together, we are silly and definitely try and have fun. (As long as I can try to neutralize the whining about her issues with her divorce). But since Mo is the pretty one (mom’s labeling of us – I was labeled the smart one (?)not! lol) it’s interesting to watch that she does command a certain ‘presence’ (mainly from men). I just found it funny to see when we sat down at the bar for Happy Hour and the bartender would listen to me, but would totally engage with her. That and some of the other men were also wanting her attention. Hey, I wasn’t offended, merely amused (as usual). I like people watching and seeing how they respond to her is fun!
Besides from my perspective; I have to say that there is a huge difference of dynamics from Seattleite’s to the Eastsider’s (namely Bellevue & Kirkland). Eastsiders still have this arrogance, that seemed to have sprung up from the Microsoft era – you know, back when working for Microsoft meant something… ha ha. The desperate housewives also became the norm (in their overpriced Land Rovers that never saw any ‘nature drives’) to the men that still chase the younger women (Bellevue is now the Russian Bimbo capital) while they head down from several of the Microsoft Towers to pretend they ‘have it’. I can remember the days when I would hang out with my friends (at the time and while I was single) and even then realized that over 40 was much too old to ‘play’ there…
THIS is why I like my Simple Romantic Life. I’m an observer, I still want to plan (events) or engage people to have fun and I like learning something each and every day! And hanging out with friends/family/boyfriend will always be a joy for me.
And aging, like the beautiful Diane Lane said (in her March 2016 More magazine article): “My relationship with aging is cozy. I’m not trying to play 29 and holding on with white knuckles…” “I’m done saying, I’m sorry I wasn’t who you needed or wanted me to be to everybody in my life.” (Great article but hey, if I could have aged like HER, then maybe I would be my little sister!) HA HA
Hope you all have a GREAT weekend and look for my ‘maybe’ periodic posts on Facebook of my next international trip/adventure! Otherwise, I’ll be back… (boo!) 🙂
Hugs ~ Laura