The cat has done everything to wake me from my slumber, I walk down the stairs to start my routine and I hear the birds singing outside. I stop because THIS song (Danny’s Song) is now in my head… (smiles).
But then the funk falls back on my face. I’ve been struggling with my sister’s issue – I’m trying to be here for her, to listen to her ‘rants’ and to support her as best I know how. Apparently I’ve been doing that WRONG though:
and the added link is also helpful (the first paragraph speaks volumes to ME):
“For those of us whose default is taking on everyone else’s “stuff” (and/or who have otherwise unhealthy behaviors around boundaries), the quest to get healthier and happier often involves the mercy of others. What do I mean by that? Well, if you are predisposed to feeling things for others, there is also a good chance that you are letting your “stuff” out into the ether in a way that is perpetuating the unhealthy dynamics.”
I love my sister dearly and I don’t want to see/hear her hurt, but no matter what I say to try and help her, I feel that she doesn’t listen (because she then tells me what OTHERS are saying to her – and contradicts my comments). AKA – Laura just listen but don’t say anything!?!
I can’t absorb her issues (I have more than enough of my own) but I want to be here for her, but I also can’t forget my own problems in the process.
Finally, I also need to stop being THAT friend as well, “You know that friend I’m talking about, the one who is seemingly always complaining about work, never able to focus and living life in a constant state of functional chaos.” – my poor friend Erica has already learned that about me, “whine, whine, whine, bitch, woos me… yadda yadda yadda” (lol).
So I’ve printed off several Mind Body Green articles for me to sit and ponder, hopefully absorb and as much as I should share with sister, I just need to learn to work on MY Namaste moments, meditate and not get too worked up about her. LISTEN without adding… love without hurting! Listen to the birds…