I still don’t fully understand my own self. I still feel like I struggle with just being ME, not the girlfriend, wife, mother, and worker. I seem to constantly worry about other’s happiness over my own and lately struggling with stress isn’t helping.
The Simple Romantic Life has been harder to manage of late, and I’m hoping I can manifest it back this next year!
This repost from The Book of Life (The School of Life) is interesting as well as the test at the end.
From Ignorance to Understanding
In Ancient Greece, when the philosopher Socrates was asked to sum up what all philosophical commandments could be reduced to, he replied: ‘Know Yourself’. Self-knowledge matters so much because it is only on the basis of an accurate sense of who we are that we can make reliable decisions – particularly about love and work. The difficulty is that we seldom manage to make sense of more than a fraction of who we are. It can be easier to master the dynamics of another planet than to grasp what is at play in the folds of our own brains. Fortunately, however, there are a number of tools and practices that can help us to reach inside our minds and move us from dangerous vagueness to challenging but redeeming clarity.
This new essay book takes us on a journey into our deepest, most elusive selves and arms us with a set of tools to understand our characters properly. We come away with a newly clarified sense of who we are, what we need to watch out for when making decisions, and what our priorities and potential might be.
On Inner Voices
Somewhere in our minds, removed from the day to day, there sits a judge. They watch what we do, study how we perform, examine the effect we have on others, track our successes and failures, and then, eventually, they pass a verdict. So consequential is this judgment, it colors our entire sense of ourselves.
The origin of the voice of the inner judge is simple to trace: it is an internalization of the voice of people who were once outside us. We have absorbed the tone of a kind and gentle caregiver, or else the voice of a harassed or angry parent, or the words of a schoolyard bully, or a teacher who seemed impossible to please. We take in these voices because they once sounded so compelling and irresistible. The authority figures repeated their messages over and over until they became lodged in our own way of thinking – for better and for worse.
We have developed a questionnaire to help us develop a better understanding of ourselves. Drawing on a combination of every-day situations, visual prompts and hypothetical scenarios, the questionnaire is designed to identify key personality traits that make up who we are.
This questionnaire does not aim to summarise the whole self but to suggest a few themes which might be prominent in our characters, with the hope of helping us to live more wisely with the different parts of ourselves.