Besides all of the political ‘antics’ we are currently following, apparently the other obsession is celebrity relationships. It’s amusing how our generation is just as ‘enamored’ with celebrities as others were in the past. But the celebrities of our day definitely are not machined out like the older generation. They speak their own minds, can’t be censored by the studios (or anyone else for that matter) and we treat them as though some of them are royalty (which sadly also makes for their ballooned personas). We’ve created celebrities who actually aren’t even in movies (Kardashian’s, singers, and even some of our bosses), who now have the personalities of that of some of our current politicians. WOW! Big mistake!
I personally can attest that I enjoy some celebrities, but I don’t find them to be role models. There are those who I just enjoy watching, who I do think have an amazing talent and then there are those couples whom I admire for the tenacity to remain together – two good examples are: Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn and Oprah and Stedman. Now I’ve heard or read that Oprah and Stedman (finally) married, but I don’t think its true. And I think the reason these two couples intrigue me is for the fact that they’ve remained together for quite a long time (without getting married).
Another article I read and enjoyed, from Woman’s Day: Goldie Hawn on Why She Never Married Kurt Russell is a great example. I DO believe in marriage, but even after my own 26 years, I now believe that there isn’t a real reason for me to have the license and or ceremony to sanctify a relationship. Both of these couples have also proven that.
Oprah created her own life, built an empire, still has a good fan following and even more so, is an inspiration and role model for women and men. SHE did all of this without Stedman, but she still has the love and devotion of that coupling for 30 years now.
Goldie’s comments (on the post): “I would have been long divorced if I ever married [Kurt].” Goldie was married (twice) before and I love the answer she gives:
“Marriage is an interesting psychological thing. If you need to feel bound to someone, then it’s important to be married. If you have independence, if you have enough money and enough sense of independence and you like your independence, there’s something psychological about not being married. Because it gives you the freedom to make decisions one way or the other. So for me, I chose to stay, Kurt chose to stay, and we like the choice.”
At 52 1/2, having raised my two children, tried the after-divorce dating (comical, humiliating, frustrating and annoying as hell), I now want to continue to find ME and I love my relationship with Michael (whom I’m glad we like each other enough to try this coupling too), but I also am learning to like who I am on my own (on my own terms). I’m creating my Simple Romantic Life and I’m enjoying it with Michael as well as enjoying it myself.
What do YOU think/feel about that? For you single/older individuals, what are you looking for? And for those of you IN a marriage, keep working at it. Don’t take each other for granted.