I’m glad to say that I am celebrating my 1-year anniversary of unemployment! Funny right? Seriously, after 4 years with my last company, I am thankful for the time, enjoyed the friends and had some fun. I learned a lot about myself as well as more about human interacting… I’ll leave it at that. teehee
This post is just an observation I had after this year (and with the help and reminders from my sister about on-line dating).
So, how is unemployment like online dating?
|Filing for Unemployment||On-line Dating|
|You have to sign up & create a profile and then apply for your weekly check.||You also sign up & create a profile but (in some cases) PAY to receive some ‘interest.’|
|You should update your resume and add it to every possible job search site.||If you don’t want one of the ‘pay’ online sites there are several free ones… (just remember you get what you pay for)… teehee|
|Keep a weekly log of 3 jobs you apply for. This is mandatory and you may get audited.||Peruse at your discretion and sometimes fear. Or as the Tinder’s do – swipe… (aka-next). You may feel like your being audited…|
|You will get solicitations from recruiters who will also try to find out “where you’ve already applied – so as not to duplicate” (B.S. that’s the tactic to find out what other companies are searching that they don’t know about) but some are legit. If you do go to meet with them some also will do a quick review of your resume & of you – and will also be browsing their phones (not really listening) and most certainly looking for someone better. But you may be a potential commission…||Online you will get several (maybe) ‘potentials’- also trying to find out “what happened to your last relationship?” (aka: your crazy-psycho-money hungry-a Bitch-an Ass or just divorced – but potentially desperate?). They too are trying to get a better idea of who you are because in most cases they JUST LOOKED AT THE PICTURES (aka: didn’t read that profile)! Also – you might have potential…|
|If/when you get an actual interview set: you then work on your ‘sales pitch’ or ‘elevator pitch’ (both of which your unemployment advisor will recommend). Remember to be professional & look polished and ask good questions of them that will lead to them asking you key questions/shows interest.||IF/when you get an actual date or first meet – you first hope they actually show up (get off-line) and yes also work on your ‘sales pitch’ or try not to ‘over sale’. Remember to try to be personable – be honest & also ask THEM questions rather than doing all the talking and watch for their body language and if their phones are still attached to their hands (aka-no interest).|
|You will periodically get a request to go into the unemployment office for workshops & seminars and just for them to review your activity.||If you haven’t found ‘the one’ or any ‘potentials’ quite yet – you may want to consider another site or paying for another one or just consider going ahead and seeing what your friends “you should meet…” potentials are.|
|Remember to review your resume periodically for key words that are also showing up on job listings – these are the same as what will be scanned for/of your resume.||Do the same for your online profile – change it up (but not after a night of drinking-stexting-binging-PMS-or pitty party moments). Get creative – remember if you can’t laugh at yourself or have fun – you will go mad!|
|Hopefully you’ve had some interviews or have some leads or even better found a new career?! As they say – networking is sometimes the best job leads – or even consider a NEW career for yourself. Look at different options!||Remember – nothing is free (not that…gross)! You have to be real with yourself and just BE yourself. If that potential mate doesn’t like you – don’t go crazy or over-think and give yourself some time OFF of those sites periodically to see who YOU are. You might be surprised to actually find someone NOT online.|
How do we change this?
Employers & Employees:
- Employers: Be good mentors and supporters of your employees. If you have to do lay-offs, do them wisely. Remember your employees know what’s going on with the company! Have HR be human’s again – get back to what their title IS – Human Relations…
- Employees: Be a good employee, work at your job, if you are stressed or need to make a change, DO IT. There is very, very little security anymore, but make the efforts.
- Both: “Treat them as you want to be treated!” Titles are given, and constantly changed – what do YOU have to offer each other?
We all (well most of us) need human interaction, we innately want to be liked (loved) and share ourselves with another person. If you are just looking for sex, go to those sites, stop wasting other people’s time pretending you ‘want a relationship’ when you don’t even really know how to do that! Again, like the HR in companies, turn it around and it’s Relating to Humans!!
- Women: stop looking for the guy who’s going to ‘help you’ – help yourself (even financially). Be an independent woman who wants a partner/soul mate. If your going to put the ‘goods’ out there, then stop asking for the relationship!
- Men: date real women, if you are older and want the younger model, you WILL pay for it. If you’re a real man, show that side. If you’re a home-body, then don’t say you like to go out, be honest even with yourself.
- BOTH: treat them as you want to be treated!
Thankfully my sister ‘came to my rescue’ by offering me a part-time job to work for her and her wonderful (older – meaning a doctor who actually cares/has a heart) boss. This will help and allows me time to keep working on who I am and what I like to do (host parties/events & weddings – if you’re looking for a planner, contact me) and still be there for those who appreciate me and my work. And to enjoy the time with my boyfriend of almost 5 years!