Several of my past posts (and probably ones to come) are about “recreating myself.” It’s honestly a statement I make (and yes, will continue to make) quite often. More-so because I don’t know who I really am! Sounds silly, but admittedly there are the routine parts of me that don’t change. But like the former event planner, I CREATE and RECREATE myself for different situations. Yes, I know most people can agree with and associate with that statement themselves.
When you start a new job, new relationships and or have life changes, do you not recreate parts or most of yourself? In jobs, there are the routine things I do, but I also type and adapt (to be accepted) for others and the position. In relationships, it’s the same. This repost will give you (and myself) a good purpose.
10 Ways to Align with Your Purpose or Dharma
What would happen if you stopped trying to “find your purpose” and instead started vulnerably showing up as you are, ready to be of service?
The spiritual Law of Dharma states that for every special talent, the world has a unique need that can only be filled by the expression of that talent. You can make the fullest use of the Law of Dharma by committing to serve others through your unique creative expression, in whatever form that takes.
Once you get out of your head and stop pondering what you are meant to do with your life and instead take action to serve others in any way you can, you begin to align with purpose. What get’s in the way of most people taking action in this way is the courage to go for what they truly want, take chances, and be fully seen.
Aligning with your purpose in life requires visibility and vulnerability. It requires pouring your heart into something that means the world to you with detachment and expressing yourself without expectation of outcome.
Researcher Brene Brown, in her research on vulnerability, found that letting yourself be seen as well as loving and serving without expectation is key to living life with a deep sense of worthiness or purpose. (I like this statement!) (read my own post on Brene Brown’s Empathy and Vulnerability)
If your purpose ultimately blossoms through your willingness to show up, be seen, and be of service, then perhaps the important question is not “How do I find my purpose?”, but is instead, “How can I authentically show up in service for those who need me most today?”
Below are 10 ways you can discover your own answers to that important question and align yourself with your purpose or dharma:
1. Be Yourself
Here is the chance to use that timeless advice from your mother, “Just be yourself, honey, and everyone will love you.” The more authentically YOU that you are, the better chance you have of connecting with the people who need you most. Plus, it’s so much easier than trying to be someone you aren’t. Don’t put on an act or try to be someone else, be yourself and share where you are NOW on your journey with others.
2. Be Consistent
You will create an impact with your efforts to live inside your purpose when you keep showing up even when it feels like you aren’t creating any real results. When you keep putting yourself out there in the same consistent way every day eventually you will hit a tipping point and your efforts will bear fruit. Be consistent in not only how often you put yourself out there, but also in the way you show up. People trust and respond to consistent efforts.
3. Be Bold
Stay in action and don’t be afraid to say what you think and what is really happening with you behind the scenes. Authenticity and vulnerability are bold, and they will help you align with your true purpose.
4. Be Helpful
Show up with value and solutions. People will notice you and respect you if you help them solve a legitimate problem they are facing or fulfil a desire they have. Being genuinely helpful will help to attract people and opportunities to your life. Give to others without expectation of anything in return.
5. Be Choosy
Don’t dilute your energies. Being specific with the way you want to serve will help you align with your purpose. You won’t find fulfilment in trying to be everything to everyone. Determine what specific kind of effect you want to have in your service to others. Choosing your “signature” style doesn’t limit who and when you serve, it simply focuses your energy on the impact you want to create.
6. Be Friendly
Being kind and showing up as a friendly face will do wonders for you in aligning with your purpose and make you happier while you do it! Spread joy always.
7. Be Imaginative
Try new things, let your mind and imagination wander. If you are feeling burnt out or like you have plateaued, try to implement something new that you never even thought about doing. Adding creativity and variety to your life will allow you to open up to new possibilities and opportunities that may bring you into deeper alignment with your purpose.
8. Be Vulnerable
Be willing to be imperfect. The only way to move forward is to take action and get feedback. Sometimes this requires you to be vulnerable and jump before you are totally “ready.” As mentioned in the introduction, being willing to be vulnerable dramatically increases your alignment with purpose.
9. Be Savvy
Stay on top of the trends that are happening in the world. Keep yourself educated and find new and creative ways to serve others and the planet. Life as you know it is currently changing at a faster pace than ever before, so being savvy and resourceful will allow you to be of service in a way that is innovative and transformational and aligns with the collective purpose of the planet.
10. Be a Star
Don’t be afraid to claim your gifts, get out there, work, and create meaningful relationships. Let your light shine and be a light for others!
Get the resources you need to gain a clear sense of direction and purpose in your life with The Chopra Center’s Discover Your Purpose Toolkit, which includes a free e-book, worksheet, 1:1 discovery session, and guided meditation. Get your free toolkit now.