In recognition of Mother’s Day (next Sunday), I want to share a series of Mother’s stories – the first being my own. And this year I will get the joy to become a grandmother (in August) as well!
Following, I will repost some of the Good Housekeeping’s own series as well.
My Mother’s & My Life
I have to first share that my own mother and I have not always had a special bond. I love her undeniably and I learned to accept the woman that she is. Admittedly, there was a moment in my own life that I held a strong ‘dislike’ toward her and even wrote her a scathing letter. But as I grew up, I learned to understand her a little more and I let go of that dislike.
One thing that I value about myself is the knowledge to understand that we can’t change others, we can only change ourselves!
Children of Divorce
Like so many others, I’m a child of divorce. My parents made comments that hurt me tremendously and I had to grow up faster than I was prepared for. I knew my grandfather (mom’s dad), so I know that some of her resentments stemmed from his anger toward her. She needed to hear, “I Love You No Matter What!”
Just a reminder to those going through divorce, please be mindful of what your children hear. It’s not THEIR fault your marriage didn’t work. Let them be children, don’t make them choose. The joy of creating your child together shouldn’t be severed – your children still need both parents (to be adults)! Your child will make their own decisions as they age, don’t give them bad choices to follow.
She Is a Good Mother
She wasn’t perfect, but she IS a good mother, she just made some bad choices in her own life, just like I have. As I watch her age now, it’s sad to see and I know that her time is coming. She’s been there for my little sister, tremendously, and there is no separating the two of them. I don’t have that same bond that the two of them have, but I still remain the mediator, the middle one, for them both.
My special bond was with my mother’s mother, my own abuela. She was that soft, sweet, quiet woman that I treasured. I don’t know if she was a good mother to her own children? But I know for me, she seemed to be. She was always there for them, giving selflessly and not asking much in return.
My mom does that now for my sister, she’s helped me periodically as well, and I know she has for my other siblings also. She can’t make up for her past, but she tried and she DID give selflessly when she was able to. It saddens me that my other siblings have chosen not to accept her, but they also don’t accept ME. As I’ve said, you can’t change other’s – you can only change yourself. I just hope that her grandchildren will remember the love that this woman brought to them and how much she loved each and every one of them!
Remember the good things, let go of the past, value the time you have (had) with your mother and grandmother and close your eyes and recall their touch and feel! Cherish what you’ve learned from them, remember the good things for they are sometimes fleeting and you will want the same from your own children.
What Do I Wish For
I wish that my children will hold good memories of me. That they can know the selfless acts that I am able and try to do for them. And that they can look into their children’s eyes as see the joy that they will create. And I wish only the best for my children, for my grandchildren, and for those who are and become a part of their lives! I want them to know love, to enjoy being a parent and to live life – simply and romantically!
Happy Mother’s Day
To all who are mothers, this includes those who have ‘paw babies,’ who give of themselves selflessly, and who nurture.
I’ve already had the joy of helping my daughter prepare our little grand daughter’s baby room, thanks to my Target affiliation – we got the crib, the dresser and I just bought the cute little ‘pink’ chair for her to comfortably nurse in! Take advantage of the free shipping (on orders of $35.00 or more starting 5/7/2017) from Target and get you, mom and someone a special something! Use the link on my sidebar.
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